Run by abandoned children?

I was just pointed at the 2014 article by Nick Duffel in The Guardian Why boarding schools produce bad leaders, which, based on his research, makes a persuasive case that premature abandonment in a boarding school environment damages the psychological development of the individuals involved.

“It leaves them ill-prepared for relationships in the adult world and the nation with a cadre of leaders who perpetuate a culture of elitism, bullying and misogyny affecting the whole of society… turns out people who appear much more competent than they actually are. They are particularly deficient in non-rational skills, such as those needed to sustain relationships, and are not, in fact, well-equipped to be leaders in today’s world.”

Now look at the UK parliament and what do we see – a culture of elitism, bullying and misogyny. Look at our recent history with Europe – David Cameron appears to have spent his years in office grandstanding with Europe rather than developing relationships. The result – he had no allies when he needed them, and we are saddled with a damaging Brexit. The job was to make Europe work, not to break it.

The whole EU referendum debate was between these people, the ‘big personalities’ – Farage, Cameron, Osborn, Johnson, Gove – having the unreality of an Oxford Union debate where an interesting motion was being debated, but perhaps not really in touch with the importance of what it was they were debating. Did they ever really address the ‘big picture’ rather than the simplistic polarity of ‘economy vs immigration’, which will always be a compromise.

Duffel goes on to describe ‘privileged abandonment’:

“Prematurely separated from home and family, from love and touch, they must speedily reinvent themselves as self-reliant pseudo-adults… Paradoxically, they then struggle to properly mature, since the child who was not allowed to grow up organically gets stranded, as it were, inside them. In consequence, an abandoned child complex within such adults ends up running the show.”

Look at the ridiculous childish put-downs that are a staple of parliamentary ‘debate’, particularly at Prime Minister’s Questions. Look at the ridiculous attachment to centuries-old traditions that simpy make parliamentary procedures look farcical.

So are we really being run by immature adults with abandoned child complex, big egos lacking empathy, and is that why things are such a mess in these post-Brexit days?

If so, do we really want another of them to be the next prime minister?

 There is much more insight in Duffel’s article and , no doubt, in his books and on his website


One thought on “Run by abandoned children?

  1. All these MPs have an air of unreality about them – detached, disconnected, disinterested in anything much except themselves and those around them they call friends. I’d bet there are psychotherapists who would gladly take them on as clients. They – the “abandoned children” – deserve some pity and understanding, but to vote them into positions of power, now we are becoming fully aware of how incapable and devious some of them can be, would be yet another huge mistake at the ballot box.


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